Save the Date Wording

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Save the Date Etiquette

Save the date cards are a great way to let your guests in on the details of your wedding day much earlier than your formal invitations.  They are typically more casual and personal than wedding invitations.  Your save the date cards can be traditional cards, photo cards, postcards, magnets, brochures, booklets, e-cards, or even video productions.  No matter what you use for your save the dates, you should be sure to use proper save the date etiquette.  Here are some basic etiquette guidelines you should try to follow when sending your save the date cards for your wedding.

The most important thing to remember when sending your save the date cards is to make sure that you are absolutely inviting each person to the wedding when you send a save the date card.  This may seem obvious, but many couples get in a bind when they have sent save the date's to everyone they know but later find themselves needing to cut down on the budget and guest list.  Frankly, if you haven't finalized your wedding guest list and budget, you are not ready to send save the date's to everyone.  It's much safer to only send save the date cards to the people you are certain will be invited to the wedding. 


With that said, you should also know that you don't have to send a save the date card to everyone you hope to invite to the wedding.  It's perfectly fine to only send them to those closest to you that you that you really want to be able to attend your wedding.  This is a great option if you haven't completely finalized your guest list yet.  You could also just send them to out-of-town guests if you are trying to cut back on costs.  The number of save the date cards you send is up to you. An exception to this guideline, though, is when you are having a destination wedding.  Each guest for a destination wedding should receive a save the date card to allow ample time for making work and travel plans.


Although you don't have to send your save the date cards to everyone on your guest list, etiquette does suggest that you should try to send them to your close family and bridal party.  You may be tempted not to send them to the people who already know the details of your wedding day, but your family and close friends will appreciate receiving one. 


Generally, you should try to send your save the date cards about six months before your wedding day.  You may want to send them sooner if you are having a destination wedding, you have a lot of out-of-town guests, or if you are having your wedding over a holiday or three-day weekend.  Under these circumstances, you should try to send your save the date cards about eight to twelve months before your wedding day. 


When sending save the date cards, try to be specific about who is invited to the wedding.  If you plan to let the person bring a guest, include "and guest" on the card's envelope.  If you want the guest to be a specific person, include that person's name.  It's best to be up-front and honest about who is invited to the wedding as early as possible so that your guests can make arrangements.


A popular trend for save the date cards is to create a save the date magnet.  If you are sending magnets, it is a friendly gesture to disclose this on the envelope of your save the date.  Magnets can harm computers and software.  You could simply write "magnet enclosed" on your envelope.


Lastly, you should remember that even though save the dates can be less formal than wedding invitations you should still aim to keep them classy.  Don't include any graphics, pictures, or verses that you may be embarrassed to show your grandmother.  Fun, funny, and cute save the date cards can (and should) still keep an element of class.


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